Ahhh, I will get better at doing this more regularly! I will! I will! I will!
In the past few days I have had a revelation about saying what is on your mind. I think a lot of times people, myself included sometimes, are afraid to say what is on their mind, what they want, what they feel, what is on their mind. Sometimes its is as simple as not wanting to Rock the Boat or maybe insecurity. But what ends up happening is these thoughts and feelings t stew and boil in your mind. You constantly go back to thinking about them and what may be small issues, if discussed right away, become big issues.
When you finally decide to talk about whats going on, it is an epic, emotional ordeal that is not fun to deal with. Not to mention you probably sound like a crazy woman because you have kept these feelings in for so long and totally blind-side you partner. When you come back down to your senses and really think about it- how can you be so upset, frustrated, angry, etc. with someone who has no clue about what is going on or what you are feeling. In this respect you are just as guilty as they are of any wrong doing!
I know I am guilty of this. And it is a problem. If you really think about it, nothing and I mean nothing, is that big of deal. If it were that big of deal you would have said something a long time ago!
The moral of the story is SAY what you want, SAY what you feel, SAY what you need, SAY WHAT IS ON YOUR MIND! and do it in a timely, calm, rational manner! Not when you're overwhelmed with feelings! Do not let it stew and get worse {in your mind} deal with it then or forever hold your peace!
In the past few days I have had a revelation about saying what is on your mind. I think a lot of times people, myself included sometimes, are afraid to say what is on their mind, what they want, what they feel, what is on their mind. Sometimes its is as simple as not wanting to Rock the Boat or maybe insecurity. But what ends up happening is these thoughts and feelings t stew and boil in your mind. You constantly go back to thinking about them and what may be small issues, if discussed right away, become big issues.
When you finally decide to talk about whats going on, it is an epic, emotional ordeal that is not fun to deal with. Not to mention you probably sound like a crazy woman because you have kept these feelings in for so long and totally blind-side you partner. When you come back down to your senses and really think about it- how can you be so upset, frustrated, angry, etc. with someone who has no clue about what is going on or what you are feeling. In this respect you are just as guilty as they are of any wrong doing!
I know I am guilty of this. And it is a problem. If you really think about it, nothing and I mean nothing, is that big of deal. If it were that big of deal you would have said something a long time ago!
The moral of the story is SAY what you want, SAY what you feel, SAY what you need, SAY WHAT IS ON YOUR MIND! and do it in a timely, calm, rational manner! Not when you're overwhelmed with feelings! Do not let it stew and get worse {in your mind} deal with it then or forever hold your peace!
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